The above wee ditty……it is a little (or a lot) cheeky, right? I’m not sure I’ve ever done that to complete strangers….but if you promise to not tell the PC Police, I’ll admit to saying it to family members on the odd occasion…..all in the name of teaching manners. Of course. You’re welcome.
The above wee ditty got me thinking.
That’s almost always never a good thing.
You see I often tell my boys that ‘manners maketh a man’ and that ‘manners make the world go around’. With my work in customer service I’m on the front-line as far as manners goes…..and I’ve noticed that most people respond really well to being thanked and spoken pleasantly too. That’s nice. Of course there are always some members of the public who make a memorable impression for all the wrong reasons, but I honestly think that if you’re proactive with your pleasantries, then there isn’t a lot of room left for nastiness.
I’ve also been thinking about culture and those things that are buried deep down in a people group. I’ve lived in four different countries and have found that each place has had many cultural differences from what I had previously known, and these cultural differences take years to learn, understand and sometimes even appreciate. But they are exciting, and valuable and each play an important role in their people group.
Just as people groups do have cultural ‘things’ that are intrinsically theirs, I do wonder if sometimes we accept certain behaviours and happenings that we don’t agree with, because we label them as possibly being a ‘cultural thing’ or a thing that just can’t be changed. When really maybe we forget that we, ourselves, have the ability to change a situation by how we carry ourselves and by what we carry in us.
I think we can easily forget that we can change the atmosphere in a situation. We can set the thermostat in our homes and workplaces. We don’t have to settle for less than pleasant. Sometimes this isn’t easy, sometimes this means we’re reacting in a polar opposite way to a situation than how we’d naturally like to react, but we have this uncanny ability to do so. If we choose.
As a person who chooses to follow Christ, I do believe that I can pray to God and ask for wisdom when I need it. And I always need it. I can pray for patience when I need it. And I always need that too. More love? More peace? More self-control? Yep, yep and yep. I’m a work in progress for sure, but that ‘work’ means that I can change situations, I get to set the thermostat.
And that ‘work’, that’s the stuff that makes life all that much better. All that much more peaceful. All that much more rewarding.
Today I was with some friends and we had the privilege of singing some worship songs with a dear soul who doesn’t have much longer here on this earth. I’m certain that as we sang (thankfully the others can really SING, cos I certainly can’t), the atmosphere in that room changed. Comfort entered in. We changed the thermostat.
This afternoon as one of my little boys sobbed his heart out because of a disappointment, his teacher was able to reassure him of his value as she gave him genuine words of encouragement. She was able to speak hope into that troubled little heart, because of what she carries in her, because of WHO she knows. She changed the thermostat.
Tomorrow, as I deal with Joe Public all day long, I can offer him more than what he came into my workplace for: I can offer him a genuine smile, a listening ear and a heart that cares, because what I have to offer him is the stuff that changes things. Its the stuff that brings hope to the hurting and relief from the striving. Its that stuff that’s called the presence of God. And the presence of God can change situations. Big and little situations, all day and every day. This I believe, because this is what I know to be true. I can set the thermostat.
That’s the ticket, that’s the stuff. What a holy privilege.